You, me. Heart to Heart Coffee Talk.

Today I just want to have a heart to heart coffee talk with you if you have a desire to equip and release other people for the work of the ministry OR you want to grow your own faith-based business.  I have wanted to write this for a while because it’s something that I see come up a lot in my coaching and business training.

I have talked people out of paying money for my business summits if they don’t have the below in place because I consider what I do a stewardship and don’t want people to waste their money. I have been through a lot financially and it took a lot of work to get it back to the place where I was in an overflow position!

So let me begin by saying when I put my hands to the plow whether it be a personal goal or business, I want to be successful. I hope you do too and so let me share one of my favorite quotes with you.

Being ready is not what matters. What matters is winning after you get there. 

Lt. Gen Victor H. Krulak, USMC, April 1965

I share frequently in my leadership team about the need to be strategic with your faith and your life because here’s the truth; the enemy is very strategic about killing your potential. If you’re not strategic about your calling, you will never see it grow the fullest potential that God has created it to become.  I remember a time in my life when I had big dreams. But here’s the truth.

It was pipe dream at some point because I hadn’t reached the point in my faith and focus where I was willing to lay down my life and develop the discipline to see these dreams realized. You see, a Godly vision will always require you to sacrifice and to overcome doubt and unbelief about who God is calling you to AND to match that will militant and strategic work!  Here are some examples of what I am talking about:

  1. You’re willing to get up early and develop a daily schedule that you stick to without compromising. Laziness kills purpose. Some people want to think they are being “spirit-led” because they are going at slow pace with no conflict. Think about that. Paul was getting stoned, shipwrecked and starving. You know in a spirit led way. LOL.  Maybe what we need is a Paul’s work ethic for reaching people!
  2. You’re willing to say no to any invitation that is outside your vision. Moving a concept from surviving to thriving means you have to be laser focused for a certain amount of time. This means well-meaning friends fun invitations, lunches, needs, etc. Ditch the people pleasing.
  3. You are willing to learn new skills in business to set goals that stretch you out of your comfort zone so that you build an identity as someone who pushes past lack.
  4. You’re accustomed to teaming with others to accomplish a goal. No one accomplishes visions alone.
  5. If you’re not willing to knock on doors, market monthly for YEARS and cold call for lead generation DAILY then don’t launch your business/ministry. God does not send people to you without marketing. Even Rick Warren did market research personally (door to door for over six months) and sent out thousands of letters to launch Saddle-back. Hope that doesn’t blow your gasket but owning your vision is WORK until you build it to the point where you can kick back a little. I’m there now, but it took me five years to learn how to fill a pipe line consistently. FIVE YEARS of every day work. 5 am to 5 pm.

So these are just five things that make a huge difference in building success. Here’s what I see frequently. People contact me because they see someone online with a fancy website, posting on Facebook about how much money they make (with accompanying pictures of them eating in a French restaurant holding their glass of wine) and they decide they want to grow a 100,000 coaching business. Maybe they want to speak, write their own coaching material, etc and produce extra residual income. Have you ever read the book, The Millionaire Next Door? They drive ordinary cars and trucks that are debt free. Why? Because their identity is not in their money and they don’t have to prove to everyone they are rich. What I have found is truly wealthy people are quiet and subdued about it. They want to share their stuff and bless others not always be showing you pictures on Facebook of what you don’t have. (But if you buy their 25,000 coaching program you can be posting pics to your ex just like them.Holy Cow with the disposable relationships and lack of loyalty.

Here’s the thing and I am trying to save you money here on conferences, workshops, training programs that you won’t get anything out of. If you haven’t got a compelling story or any goals in your life that you have overcome and has made you feel confident and successful, then don’t think you’re going to be able to have people buy into your influence and leadership. Wait to launch until you feel settled in your heart that you know how to set goals, reach them and enjoy the success of them. If you’re not consistently applying yourself to the vision you have created with a DEADLINE then you’re in danger of being one of those people that talk endlessly about what they are going to do with no fruit in their life. Then you lose credibility. When you lose credibility, you lose investors into your vision. I have seen it over and over again. You have investors or return clients when you have an authentic fruitful idea.

I’m amazed at the websites people send me that they want to copy and there’s not one testimonial on it nor are there any concrete results the people tell you that they can help you produce. I can inform you that if the person you’re thinking about hiring or following doesn’t have anyone they can refer you to speak to you in person or has more than a few testimonials on their site, pass them up. If they have to upsell you and don’t have any affordable programs, pass them up. You don’t have to pay massive amounts of money to find a good coach. Some of the best coaching I received was under 2,500. And it took me a year of consistent work to put into place to be producing 25,000 or 50,000 on it.

Lastly, learn to chase one rabbit at a time. Your brilliance, creativity, and persuasive presence do nothing for you if you’re pursuing 2/3 things at one time in your life. Write all your great idea’s down on paper and get it out of your head. Leave it there until you have chased the one rabbit and then take on the next goal. I hope that coffee time saves you heartache and MONEY!

Faith Forward for your authentic success. Love, Bec:)