This week my daughter Abby married the man of her dreams and the guy she had been dating since high school. Jay and I heard over and over again at the wedding how amazing, beautiful and perfect the whole day went from start to finish. A matter of fact, when Tim started the ceremony, he said: “Welcome to the Disney Princess wedding.” It was no exaggeration. The biggest question I got was Becky, how did you stay so peaceful and run your business at the same time as everyone knows I am training for a half marathon and hosting our annual Coaches Summit in another three weeks.
I thought now would be a perfect time to do a blog on work-life balance as these are the times where you see if you live a balanced life! This is from my heart to yours and may it help you grow your Christian coaching business as well as deeply fulfilling relationships!
5 Work Life Balance Strategies For Leaders
1. Invest in the things DAILY that keep you operating at a peak performance zone.
This is probably one of the most significant things that will transform your leadership. When I turned 40 I had an ID theft for almost a million dollars. It forced me into a place where I had to ramp up my ability to process stress. I chose to start running an hour a day. Suddenly I noticed I was no longer dealing with double-mindedness to the extent I used too or mood swings. What I thought was going to be a short-term solution ended up being a significant shift in my identity that equipped me to build even more momentum than I had before. Besides prayer, I never miss an hour of cardio ten years later.
2. Invest a couple hours a week into what nurtures you and/or your marriage.
I love to be outside working in my yard, hiking, canoeing or otherwise getting dirty. I also love my two dogs. This is another big game changer. Block time for what brings your heart joy as you are building for the long-term. You just don’t want to go through life waiting to enjoy it. I understand as a mother of 4 kids that it seems like you just don’t have time because of sports, homework, and church with the kids but trust me. Take at least one night a week for date night with husband. Even through homeschooling for 12 years, church planting and unlimited travel with lacrosse Jay and I had date night. Jay and I would go grab a bite to eat and then go for a hike with the dogs. It pays awesome dividends.
3. Do not under any circumstances do anything out of obligation on a weekly basis.
Notice I said weekly. We all do things to honor certain people in our life once in a while. I am not talking about that. I am speaking about all the studies, meetings, boards, calls~ you are on because someone ask you and you are afraid of hurting their feelings. An excellent way to see if this needs to change in your life is your frustration level when you get out of the meeting. I knew it was time to prune when I thought to myself. Holy cow, what a huge waste of 1 hour of my time as the people who were running the meetings didn’t have the leadership to execute fast enough on the problems that we were encountering. Compound this by 20x for every activity you are in that you don’t want to be in and it’s one hour you are not spending on fulfilling your mission in life and what really you were created to contribute to the world. Go back to your vision and stay channeled on it if you want to have a great work life balance!
4. Delegate out anything that doesn’t need your personal touch, or you aren’t good at.
Hire people who do what you do better than you do and can save you time. The more you stay focused in your boldest identity zones, the more money you will have to delegate. The wedding went perfectly because I hired a professional who took care of every detail. I knew with running a business I didn’t want to be in charge of a day that had such great importance to me. I also hire women for my business that are great at what they do, and I let them RUN! I tell them just execute. Don’t ask me. I am hiring you because I trust you. Delegation and empowerment of your team will break or make your vision.
5. Abide in Christ in the now, letting go of the past
Be present in everything you do, inwardly connecting with God. When you focus on Christ within you, you realize how often your thoughts gravitate towards past failures and future worries. You miss opportunities right in front of you because you are projecting or stuck in the past from un-forgiveness. Cultivating the presence of God in your life, letting go of judgments towards those who criticize or offend you helps you feel peaceful, reduce worry and receive more power for living healthy work-life balance.
Well, I am headed out to a short VACA in Panama City beach with some dear friends to practice what I am preaching after all the work from the wedding! Let me know if you have any tips that have helped you achieve a great work life balance!
P.S. Here is a picture of a good friend of mine Susan Hutchins from the wedding!